I had a good practice today and wanted to share what happened. I started off with a really good attitude, planning just to spend the time focusing on relaxing all over, and just feeling. Despite my desire not to have expectations, I think I often do bring a bit into the practice. I think that this time I didn't! I also made a deal with myself that I would not analyze during the practice!!

Anyway, I started with protocol and no stimulation. I felt some real strong all over buzzing and warmth. After about 5 minutes I draped my hand over my scrotum and penis and began to explore the hot spots lightly. I kind of worked my way up the perineum: pressing in with three fingers, checking out the feeling, moving to another spot, etc. I hit a particular spot about midway up, and felt this kind of energetic surging, beginning around that spot (all electrical and buzzy), and shooting upward into my chest, and then all over. As long as I kept my finger there (pushing in) the surging continued. It happened twice. The sensation was distant, i.e. "under the surface," but otherwise had all the characteristics of an orgasm! I did go ?off protocol? during the surges ? they were strong enough that I sort of lost track of the protocol for a while and just felt. I was pressing in continuously during it, but lightly, and with no sense of going over to ?the dark side? (ejaculation). My breathing remained slow and relaxed. I didn?t do any Key Sounds during the surges either, but picked up the protocol after. It was my most encouraging practice yet!

Doc,

That's great to hear. Your attitude toward KSMO today, I'll bet
would have been impossible for you a month ago, you really have
changed. Experiencing/exploring the great inner beyond of KSMO
is a challenge of a different kind (as you noted in last night's chat).
Because while the protocol is "simple", each of us, in our own
way(s), seem to encounter obstacles that give us the impression
that things far less easy than they actually are...but you are "getting
it"...continued success.

-MikeS

Thank you Mike! Jack asked me, during the chat, what was different yesterday that led to these new and more powerful echoes. I think that is an important question, and I gave it some thought. Here are my conclusions:

First, my attitude was different. I think I approached the practice with a lot less seriousness than usual. Before starting I had a glass of wine and relaxed a bit with some deep breathing (outside the bedroom); I didn?t rush up to practice immediately when the opportunity presented. I also told myself that my hyper-vigilance and real-time running criticism during practice wasn?t producing the best results, so I chose to commit to doing THIS ONE practice without analyzing what was happening the whole time. That attitude is NOT something has comes naturally for me.

Second, my mental focus was different. Rather than analyzing myself (what was that? Am I doing this/that right?) I just paid attention to 3 things: (1) making the KS resonant and vibratory, more expressive of the arousal level; (2) RELAXING my muscles; and (3) appreciating the echoes HANDS OFF, without trying to grab at or manipulate them.

Pan suggested to me the idea of doing a ?check? on my relaxation level during the practice and that advice, particularly, was very helpful. Every once in a while I ?went over? my body from the feet up and made sure that I wasn?t tensing. In fact, the regular breaths seemed to be a great vehicle for doing this. I visualized that those breaths carried a ?cloud? of ?relaxation energy? that I could send throughout my body to soften everything up. I know it was visualization, but it felt that those breaths were really carrying this effect!

I have A LOT of emotional and mental challenges in learning KSMO (due to such long-standing sexual dysfunction and frustration). Since the practice (progress) is not linear it is sometimes disheartening to me when I take that ?one step back.? The emotional challenges are MUCH more significant than I appreciated previously. At first I thought that ?furballs? wouldn?t really be an issue if I learned the ?technique? EXACTLY correct (thus my focus on the minutia of the protocol). Of course KSMO is NOT a technique, and so that thinking wasn?t helping. Attitude, mood, stress, emotions ALL factor in to the learning process! Yesterday was a clue to me that emotional ?issues? are more likely my biggest challenge, and probably not how I am doing the protocol. But, yesterday also was a clue that I am opening up and that those ?issues? are starting to loosen their grip on me. They will take more time? but as Jack said: ?The slower you go the faster you get there,? so slow progress is okay for me right now (mentally, emotionally, as well as physically).

I think you're doing just great Doc!

The protocol is simple, generally humans are not

Cheerie

Bilko

On 8/29/03 12:30:00 PM, bilko wrote:
>I think you're doing just
>great Doc!

I agree!

>
>The protocol is simple,
>generally humans are not

LOL
That's a little nugget for sure bilko!

>
>Cheerie
>
>Bilko

And to you!

Jack

On 8/29/03 9:18:00 AM, Doc- wrote:
[snip]
>Here are my
>conclusions:
>
>First, my attitude was
>different. I think I
>approached the practice with a
>lot less seriousness than
>usual.

Ahhh! At LAST! ;-)

>Before starting I had
>a glass of wine and relaxed a
>bit with some deep breathing
>(outside the bedroom);

EXCELLENT!

>I
>didn?t rush up to practice
>immediately when the
>opportunity presented.

Good! As we say here: "The fastest way to learn is by SLOWING DOWN (and letting yourself FEEL what is happening IN THE MOMENT)."

>I
>also told myself that my
>hyper-vigilance and real-time
>running criticism during
>practice wasn?t producing the
>best results,

Excellent diagnosis, Doc!

>so I chose to
>commit to doing THIS ONE
>practice

That is an excellent tip for ALL readers! Don't get ahead of yourself in the practice. Just concentrate on making "this next practice" a good one... following the Key Sound Multiple Orgasm Trigger protocol as closely as you can.

>without analyzing
>what was happening the whole
>time.

Yes!!! Replace analysis with appreciation and enjoyment, savoring what is happening for you in THIS moment.

>That attitude is NOT
>something has comes naturally
>for me.

You're not alone in that regard... especially among the male population! :-)

READERS: THIS SECTION CONTAINS VERY IMPORTANT TIPS
>Second, my mental focus was
>different. Rather than
>analyzing myself (what was
>that? Am I doing this/that
>right?) I just paid attention
>to 3 things: (1) making the KS
>resonant and vibratory, more
>expressive of the arousal
>level; (2) RELAXING my
>muscles; and (3) appreciating
>the echoes HANDS OFF, without
>trying to grab at or
>manipulate them.

Sounds perfect!

READERS: HERE'S ANOTHER VERY GOOD TIP, THIS TIME FROM ADEPT "PAN"

>Pan suggested to me the idea
>of doing a ?check? on my
>relaxation level during the
>practice and that advice,
>particularly, was very
>helpful.

That's a GREAT idea, Pan! Please add it to our new "Nuggets" collection!

>Every once in a
>while I ?went over? my body
>from the feet up and made sure
>that I wasn?t tensing.

Very good... especially when done in a gentle, relaxed way, and not with a "policing" attitude: i.e., not with an attitude of what you might be doing "wrong" (aha! GOTCHA! There you go again! etc.), rather with a loving attitude of wanting to identify what areas of your physical self may need some HELP in relaxing and allowing the energy to flow.

>In
>fact, the regular breaths
>seemed to be a great vehicle
>for doing this.

HELLOOOOOOOOOO!!! :-)

The regular breaths are an essential component of the protocol.

Why? Because it's during the regular breath phase of the protocol that you get to collect the goodies!

By that I mean that when you are doing the regular breathing, your erotic energy self LITERALLY has the "breathing room" to "send" to your conscious awareness stronger and more varied Echo Effects (which at higher levels of arousal blossom into full orgasms).

The regular breath phase gives you a chance enjoy and "anchor" that level of arousal, before giving it another "pump" through the use of another Key Sound (its use timed correctly according to the protocol).

>I visualized
>that those breaths carried a
>?cloud? of ?relaxation energy?
>that I could send throughout
>my body to soften everything
>up.

Very nice visualization!

>I know it was
>visualization, but it felt
>that those breaths were really
>carrying this effect!

Yes, the visualization is a right brain way of directing the energy flow in your body.

>I have A LOT of emotional and
>mental challenges in learning
>KSMO (due to such
>long-standing sexual
>dysfunction and frustration).
>Since the practice (progress)
>is not linear it is sometimes
>disheartening to me when I
>take that ?one step back.?
>The emotional challenges are
>MUCH more significant than I
>appreciated previously.

Doc, this realization is a HUGE STEP FORWARD for you!

It's important to remember that ignoring furballs and trying to PUSH past them using this practice is like "driving with the oil pressure warning light on", and is OFF protocol.

Congratulations on this new milestone in your practice, Doc!

>At
>first I thought that
>?furballs? wouldn?t really be
>an issue if I learned the
>?technique? EXACTLY correct

ATTENTION READERS: What Doc just described is a VERY COMMON TRAP.

>(thus my focus on the minutia
>of the protocol).

Yes, which previously took you AWAY from FEELING >>>MORE<<<.

>Of course
>KSMO is NOT a technique, and
>so that thinking wasn?t
>helping. Attitude, mood,
>stress, emotions ALL factor in
>to the learning process!

INDEED they do!

Unfortunately, very many men and many women also tend to push past these issues and just try to "get off."

But just "getting off" is not usually very satisfying, for other than very short-term "relief."

Why? Because that approach replaces arousal with stimulation. By that I mean that the pushing past the furballs takes one OUT of their EMOTIONAL body, and so actual (FULL BODY) arousal tends to stay relatively low, with excitation concentrating primarily in the genital area, for both men and women, but vigorous stimulation can trigger a "sort of" orgasm (i.e., not all that satisfying) for women, and a relatively quick ejaculation with so-so orgasm for men.

Since such behavior tends not to be DEEPLY satisfying or emotionally nurturing, one is left with a hunger for more.

This is what can set the stage for compulsive sexual behavior.

The Multiple Orgasm Trigger Method replaces high stimulation and relatively low arousal with minimal stimulation leading to multi-orgasmically high levels of arousal and satisfaction.

>Yesterday was a clue to me
>that emotional ?issues? are
>more likely my biggest
>challenge, and probably not
>how I am doing the protocol.

I think you are right on with that awareness, Doc!

The thing is, when a person is practicing the protocol correctly and yet after a period of time is still not accessing the complete opening of waves of multiple orgasms, then unresolved emotional issues (i.e., "furballs") are the likely culprit.

>But, yesterday also was a clue
>that I am opening up and that
>those ?issues? are starting to
>loosen their grip on me.

Excellent!

Yes... as I mention in the audio seminar, GENTLE practice MAY help DISSOLVE some or all of these furballs provided you have a GENTLE attitude about the practice, such as you are NOW describing.

However, to all readers: If after some gentle practice, if certain feelings of unworthiness or feelings such as: "Maybe everybody else can get this, but I'll probably be the exception who can't," etc., then it's essential to get professional counseling assistance in healing the emotional issues which are blocking access to the higher multi-orgasmic states.

>They
>will take more time? but as
>Jack said: ?The slower you go
>the faster you get there,? so
>slow progress is okay for me
>right now (mentally,
>emotionally, as well as
>physically).

Doc, as time goes on, I think you will find in retrospect that you will be amazed at what a big step forward in practice you have taken as a result of the changes you are reporting in this post.

Way to go!

Very best wishes,
Jack

Thankyou very much for your post Doc-!
It has helped me identify a few of the areas that i need to work through!

Firstly, not taking it so seriously!! I do this, and instead of enjoying time by myself and the feelings that i AM HAVING AT THAT MOMENT - i am thinking of having THE BIG ONE - I will now try to "stay" with the moment.

You are so right to say to point out how you just relaxed and to TAKE ONE SESSION AT A TIME. - The fact that you pointed out this attitude reminded me of two other areas of my life where i SUCCESSFULLY IMPLEMENTED that same attitude. Firstly, Tae Kwon Do - I never turned up to each class telling myself that I had to have the skill of a blackbelt. I simply turned up, took one lesson at a time, tried my best in that lesson, then went home - rested up, and looked forward to the next lesson - WITHOUT EXPECTATIONS of getting "it" or being an "expert" (only learning from the experts/adepts).
I SIMPLY ENJOYED the level i was at for that moment - and soon enough (nearly 5 years later) - I was a blackbelt - and I felt great about fulfilling a dream of mine. The same goes with the gym. I never beat myself up over not being "MUSCLEY" - i simply enjoyed the protocol of turning up to the gym and following my protocol. Sure, there is some frustrating times (as Jack says 2 steps forward, 1 back) - but I simply focused on my training for that one day - doing the best i can for that session, and ENJOYING the little progress that i made. Now 4 years later, friends ask me for advice for their own health and exercise!

SO THANKYOU Doc- for reminding me (and i am sure plenty of others) that there have been times where we have all enjoyed the process so much that the "destination" kind of sneaks up on you!

Your posts have been inspiring. (I printed one of them off and keep it in my diary - so whenever I feel "damn, I'm not getting it!" I give it a read, and remember to HAVE FUN!) In fact, they have been so inspiring that I have started to post my own journey, and hopefully it will help people as much as you did for me.

Alex.