I'm 29, married for 4 years, and have been practicing KSMO for about 3 years. When I started my practice, I was going through a pretty rough patch in my life. I was in severe chronic pain and on over a dozen medications, including strong painkillers, muscle relaxers, and nerve relaxants. The drugs had severely impacted my personality, and affected how my wife and I related to each other.
Before the meds, we were always "in sync" and able to work through just about anything. But the drugs created a kind of wall between us and I felt emotionally unable to express my feelings for her. To top it all off, my ability to feel and express pleasure had gone down the tubes. All of a sudden, I had premature ejaculation, erection difficulty, and general numb feelings during sex. I was desperate to get out of the pain, or at least find a buffer for it, and yet I was even more desperate to get off the drugs and regain my former self and sexual functioning.
The first time I listened to Jack's seminar, I already felt pretty sure I'd made the right choice. Something about his simple, straight forward approach and the idea of the Key Sound made sense to me. I decided I'd give it my best shot and see what happened.
My first week was of practice was OK. I had begun to feel some Echo Effects from the Key Sound without stimulation, but was keeping my sessions with stim down to just ten minutes at a time, so they weren't all that profound. The next week, I was starting to settle into my sessions more and even getting some Echo Effects with stim. My continued practice of the Key Sound throughout the day really seemed to help open up those pleasure channels. By the third week, I was feeling more relaxed and sensual in my sessions and really starting to get some great Echoes too. By the end of that week, I went into a session as usual, without any big expectations and WHAM! I had about 8 consecutive orgasms out of nowhere! They came up like waves and just kept coming. I was overwhelmed by the pleasure of it all! I actually had tears of joy rolling down my cheeks when the waves had finally subsided. I felt sooo relieved and overjoyed by the whole experience that I actually jumped up and ran (a big accomplishment for me back then) to my wife to tell her about it. I had finally found a way to LET GO and FEEL GOOD again!
After that, it was another month or so before I had my next multi-orgasmic experience, but it didn't matter. I knew I had already opened up something new and wonderful deep inside myself, and I knew it would surface more and more with time and practice. From then on, I was feeling more like "myself," again, and yet like a whole new person all at the same time!
I slowly began to get my sense of humor and joy back as my pain levels decreased and my need for the medications dissolved. Over the next 6 months, I went from depressed, angry, and unpleasant, to upbeat, positive, and hopeful. My wife actually said she felt like I was, "back again." It was incredible!
My sexual functioning was as good as ever, with some terrific new additions. Even though I was still the only one practicing KSMO, our lovemaking was once again passionate and loving. But even better was the way we were laughing again, and having great talks, really communicating like we used to!
Once I really felt confident in my solo practice, I began using it in our lovemaking. It was touch and go at first, but eventually I was having multiple orgasms with Amy almost as easily as alone. She seemed to just naturally receive the energy of my Key sound and return it with one of her own, even without ever having practiced KSMO. Before long, we were sharing our orgasms together in waves. Sometimes, we couldn't tell who's orgasm we were both feeling!
The experience of knowing that deep down, we were feeling the same pleasures had a wonderful affect on our marriage. There was a much deeper sense of mutual understanding growing between us. It was like realizing that just because we had different "parts," we weren't all that different after all. Something about this new connection and mutual satisfaction seemed to dissolve a subtle tension between us. It wasn't all that noticeable before, but it's absence was. Our relationship just felt, "smoother," somehow.
Fast forwarding about 2 years, we now have a whole new love life. There's never tension about how often we have sex or how good it was this or that time. We find pleasures far beyond just satisfaction so often that there's no feeling of, "trying," anymore. It's more a matter of simply letting the next blissful union happen when the time feels right.
Another interesting development is that we realized recently we haven't had a fight or even a strong argument in about a year. We've talked about how psychologists say fighting is important in relationships and the absence of it suggests a problem. But we wonder if a large chunk of those supposed, "necessary," fights are actually the result of common underlying sexual tension, and dissatisfaction. Perhaps since this new kind of pleasure for both sexes hasn't been available to the public until now, the "experts," decided the tension was normal and "healthy." Well it's just a theory anyway. I hope other folks around here will have more to add on that.
I guess that about covers it. I hope no one minds the lengthy post, but I wanted to give it the full story.

Excellent story Pan, I'm very happy for you and for your wife. It's
great to be alive again isn't it? There is so much to life. I am
amazed everyday. It sounds like you are living well, fully living!!!

I like your "no feeling of trying anymore" like everything finally just
"is", everything!! All the time. Sex included, the whole
range...really being your self during each moment of life...staying
out of your own way and letting life happen...and having someone
to share that with, and she with you. Wow. No wonder there's
nothing to fight about!!! (I'm kind of kidding, but not really, because
apparently your openness and closeness (aided by the KSMO
opening up factor) make the world and your world a beautiful
place, it is too nice a place then to fight and complain, it is much
easier to simply enjoy it, which you are doing...congratulations.)

Take care.

Thanks Mike. You always have such wonderful sentiments in your posts! I really enjoy them.
You're totally right on so many levels. I do feel like having this kind of reliable pleasure and satisfaction available has cleared the way for the rest of me to be present in my life and my marriage. I remember hearing as a teenager that older men felt relieved not to be so full of hormones and sexual obsession anymore. While I understood that, I always saw it as some kind of "giving up," and just being glad to have the contest over with, even if you lost. I wanted to find that kind of peace while I still had some, "pep," left in me!
As for the "nothing left to fight about," comment. Yeah! You said it all right there. I mean, I consider myself lucky, because I married my best friend. So, we always did work things out rather smoothly. But it was like sex was the "final frontier," of our union. The last place where we hadn't found complete harmony and mutual experiences to share. Once we had this way of sharing our deepest pleasures, we had a level of contentment I've never really seen in "normal," marriages. At least not in ones where the partners were under 75!
It's not that I don't think we'll ever have another fight, or even that we shouldn't. But I am pretty sure that if we do, it will have a purpose and a resolution. I mean, conflict has it's place in the Universe. But it just seems to be such a huge part of romantic relationships, when the true reason for it is "in the background," and not related to the words being thrown around.
I feel so lucky to have found this system, that I kinda feel sorry for all those couples over the years who had great love, but couldn't get around "it." It's funny how such a simple system, and a minor change of perspective can move mountains! Perhaps one day, people will think of KSMO as some kind of prerequisite for marriage. Like, "You two are getting married and you haven't learned how to share your orgasms yet?!? Are you nuts?!?" Can you imagine? I'd love to be around for THAT!

Best Wishes,

Pan :-)