Hi everyone!

I thought I'd start a thread in which I'd be able to post my questions to you guys. I would be very grateful for your guidance.

I'll start by introducing myself to those I haven't talked to already: In short, I am a 27 year old man who lives in a ski town. I've tried for eight years to become multiorgasmic through the 'Big Draw' method taught by Mantak Chia and the Taoists. Although I have enjoyed the process, it hasn't really worked for me...

I am so glad that I have stumbled upon this method! I've practiced the protocol for almost a month now, and I have experienced some nice echo-effects during and between sessions! I haven't felt much lately though, but I am confident it will come back.

These are my two main questions right now:


Do intentions matter?
I sometimes feel a little ashamed about the fact that one of my main reasons for becoming multiorgasmic is to give myself a competitive advantage on the meat market... I have other more noble reasons too, but I'll be honest - getting laid is the main one. From your experience, do intentions matter? Will this rather crude intention keep me from reaching multiorgasmicity?


Sexual frustration, - good or bad?
Is sexual frustration a good thing or a bad thing from the point of view of the protocol? In other words, will being sexually frustrated keep me from reaching my goal somehow, or will all this energy get me there faster?
I'm talking now about the goal of becoming multiorgasmic. I know all too well that being sexually frustrated certainly won't help me get laid...

Hey Radius, those are good questions. I don't think becoming multi orgasmic to help oneself sexually with another partner is a bad goal to have but I think initially you have to have the goal of doing it for yourself otherwise you may get into the trap of 'chasing after the orgasms which is counter productive.

In regards to your comment on 'sexual frustration,' I would say that KSMO has greatly helped to deliver me from this in the sense that I have achieved greater and more intense orgasms in my solo practice sessions than when having sex with my girlfriend. I also am able to hold a greater charge of sexual arousal in my body and not feel the need for sexual/ ejaculatory release.

So in short I would take the time to relax and practice KSMO for yourself and not 'chase' after the orgasms and then the added benefits of being multiorgasmic during sex will happen. Read my current post from today titled "KSMO and Sex."

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"Life should be fragrant, rooftop to the basement." ~ U2

Hi Canuck75,

Thank you for your input! I have made a mental note about not chasing after orgasms. It's tricky though...

That's great to hear that KSMO has helped you with the frustration. To read that you used to experience the same thing yet has come such a long way on the path gives me hope. Thanks!

I read your other post earlier today!

Hey Radius,

Ya it is definitely a trickytrap of chasing the orgasms to fall into. A number of members on the forum have referred to the trap as 'chasing the fawn.' KSMO is like watching a fawn come out of the forest towards you. If you chase after it or try to force an encounter with the fawn it will bolt, but if you remain calm, relax and let the fawn come to you, you'll get what you're looking for. I think it's one of those universal truths. We spend most of our life trying to force things whether it's a relationship, a job or whatever and a lot of the time we end up scaring them away. But if we relax and let them come to us then things work out.

Definitely have hope brother! Just enjoy the journey and the great new sensations you'll experience. It's taken some patience and learning to relax and be patient on my part but the payoff has been amazing!

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"Life should be fragrant, rooftop to the basement." ~ U2

A quote regarding that universal truth:

“Beyond control lies God.”

- Toni Bentley, The Surrender (found on Beautiful, depraved: The argument for the ass (...yes I am desperate.))

Hi Radius,

I see Canuck has offered some really great advice and opinions here.

I do agree with alot of what he shared with you in regards to "chasing the fawn" or forcing things to happen before you are truly "open" to receiving the pleasure-ful bounty. I personally can testify to experiencing many things in my 3 years of practicing KSMO (tm) . In the beginning, I came to KSMO with no intentions of what I wanted from KSMO initially. In retrospect think of it as a toddler first learning how to walk...lil wobbly in the beginning but as you learn patience and gain confidence in yourself...the rewards are just ASTOUNDING!!

Not ever person proceeds or progresses at the same rate with KSMO...for me it took me less than a month and I experienced my very first multiple orgasm. The hardest part for me was dealing with the echo effects when I wasn't actively practicing... they'd occur when I was working and I couldn't "do anything" to ease them off- unless I went to a private area i.e. bathroom and did some key sounds ,but not to point of orgasming- more so to help dissipate/spread the echos outward (so they weren't so localized in one area-- like my chest, back or shoulders).

Every single person comes to KSMO with what he or she or they (if couples) with what they would like from KSMO. Reading your reason brought a smile to my face- being a woman.

I hope things progress as you'd like them to- and also to suggest not rushing anything...let the echos and feelings come to you.

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With Love, Light and with a Joyously singing heart,
Laly
Old forum threads of mine :
http://tiny.cc/KOx0x - shy newbie
http://tiny.cc/mt9sd - letting go of anger
http://tiny.cc/wR7Hb - multiple orgasm success-insight

I read this in a book today "You never know how much courage you have until you face your greatest fears head on".

Thanks for your advice Laly. I'm glad I made you smile!

By the way Laly, what you wrote about those powerful echo-effects is amazing! I hope I get that too (even though I fully understand that it must have been difficult to deal with).

Regarding intentions, I suddenly remembered this paragraph from Khalil Gibran's 'The Prophet':

"Some of your youth seek pleasure as if it were all, and they are judged and rebuked.
I would not judge nor rebuke them. I would have them seek.
For they shall find pleasure, but not her alone:
Seven are her sisters, and the least of them is more beautiful than pleasure.
Have you not heard of the man who was digging in the earth for roots and found a treasure?"


I guess all this is just like Yoga in the sense that even if you start doing it only to get visible abs, it will probably make you a better, kinder person in the end anyway...

The echos were only bothersome in the fact I "couldn't" do anything about them as I was at work and couldn't "go into" a key sound session right then n there- I usually waited until I got home-- OR if they get to be too much-- I found a private place where I could at least minimize them.

Oh yeah...you will come to find out KSMO does change you in ways you would NEVER have thought.

For me...I am honest and probably the only person who can say KSMO saved my life!!

I hope to see you in chat today.

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With Love, Light and with a Joyously singing heart,
Laly
Old forum threads of mine :
http://tiny.cc/KOx0x - shy newbie
http://tiny.cc/mt9sd - letting go of anger
http://tiny.cc/wR7Hb - multiple orgasm success-insight

I read this in a book today "You never know how much courage you have until you face your greatest fears head on".