Hey people, I'm a new guy here. Heard Jack's podcast interview with Dr. Patti Taylor and followed it here.

Very cool. I've only started working with the key sound a couple of times, but notice sensations already. I've done a fair amount of breath work, from being a regular low-level practitioner of yoga, to using breath to watch my own emotional reactions to stuff. So I already have a fairly well-developed sense of how to watch physical and emotional feelings in my body.

Like I said, I've noticed sensations already just from the key sound ... during the breaths between the key sound, I can feel warmth and expansion in my chest and upper belly. I've only combined it for a few minutes with gently stroking the underside of the head of my penis, one of my favorite-feeling spots. When I did, oh man! Did THAT ever feel good! I got all sorts of tingly feelings running through my chest and shoulders. I can see where that could develop into something REALLY good .....

After that long, rambling opening, here's a question. I'm here not because my orgasms happen too quickly. Rather, I had trouble reaching climax in anything less than 15 or 20 minutes. Sometimes it takes an hour. Sometimes it doesn't happen at all. I'm not on any meds that might slow me down ... that's just the way it's always been. My wife is longing for some nice, quick fucks 'cause she gets a lot of her own pleasure from her reactions to the throbbing of my penis in her vagina when we are having sex.

Did anyone else here come here first to deal with a problem like that, being too slow?

That's great Chris, I'm glad you liked the interview, and I'm glad you are becoming - as they say - happily involved!

I'm very glad to hear that!

That's excellent! Congratulations!

That is superb preparation for this practice!

Fantastic! You're definitely getting the picture!

Actually, it's not rambling at all - everything you had to say is great news and good information for newbies in terms of related practices that can help prepare you for this practice.

It may just be the way you're wired, but it might also be hormone related. Have you ever discuss this issue with your doctor, or perhaps consulted a urologist? Usually you Dr. will be willing to prescribe testosterone level tests to see where you are in relation to the average levels for your age.

Is it the friction that she likes the most or is that the throbbing sensations during actual ejaculation?

As you continue to develop a skill with this particular practice, it will become easier for you to be inside of her and maintain an erection was a little bit of stimulation that is with a little bit of motion and yet with a lot of Emotion - that is, with a great deal of emotional intensity, and that can often be accompanied by throbbing of your penis and the surges of orgasmic energy rush through you.

Also keep in mind, that this method can be equally effective for her - it's not just for men - and sell it at some point you both develop greater skill with this practice there may be a place where you can meet during intercourse that can be quite intense, with plenty of throbbing, an unprecedented emotional intensity.

I hope you'll keep us posted an ideal start a blog.

Wishing you both all the best that life has to offer,
Jack

PS Re: your final comment:
I just want to give you a little caution about framing your sexual activity as being "too" slow... why assign a negative frame to the way you naturally seem to be?

Hey, Jack, thanks for the response! Thanks for the encouragement, too ... this really feels like a great practice and a great group of people to be a part of.

I've had my testosterone checked, and it's well within the normal range of what it should be. My doc was wondering the same thing.

What my wife enjoys about intercourse is being filled by my erection, and feeling some regular movement inside her ... but what she really loves (and what often brings her to her own climax) is feeling my penis pulsate and throb inside her, especially at the base when I'm fully inside her. However, it usually takes me lots of time moving in and out before I get to a point where I start throbbing like that. She's usually dry and tired of it by that time.

Your technique seems like a perfect match for us ... I can start feeling more orgasmic, she can get the Extra Throbbing she likes so much. I've mentioned this to her but she's hesitant to put much faith into it 'til she sees the results.

And thanks, too, for the reframe on coming too "slow" ... gave me a chance to think about how awesome it is to feel these feelings at all, and what a gift they are. I'd been feeling bad about spending too much time rubbing my wife raw during sex and feeling bad about that.

Hey you're very welcome, and I'm glad to hear that you're open to reframing the negative thought patterns.

One other that you and your sweetie might talk about - perhaps even with the help of a compassionate sexuality counselor such as those found at The American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors and Therapists - about her possibly releasing the holding of any frame of skepticism, perhaps considering replacing it (if it exists) with one of open curiosity - no guarantees of course just a sense of wondering what if... what the two of you may have yet to discover with one another.

Communication involves both of you of course, and this is where even a few sessions with a counselor thoroughly trained and clinically supervised specifically as a sexuality counselor can be of tremendous and lifelong benefit.

Wishing you both the very best!
Jack