Gold Nugget - Newbie tips - Learning to understand the lessons and guidance from our subconscious
Hi again, and thanks for your reply!
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...But as soon as I got this feeling, I got so exited that the sensation just faded away afterwards.
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People who are familiar with my way of working in the Forum will recognize that I tend to identify and attempt to extract any possible message that may be trying to come through from our subconscious when we make what is referred to as a slip or a Freudian slip, named after another chap who seemed to think that such slips may at least sometimes contain possibly important insights for us.
Thus, in the last sentence I quoted above, I've bolded the exited slip.
Hmmm. What do you think this might mean, especially in the specific context to which you're referring in that sentence?
I'd like to give you the opportunity to answer, before I offer my thoughts.
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I have to say, it was an interesting observation your made there! I suppose I did mean
excited, instead of
exited, and the spell-checker didn't catch it either.
On the other side, the slip
exited actually fits perfectly to this setting, since I was doing exactly that;
exiting the exciting feeling I had at this moment! I'm not sure what this actually tells me, but I remember that I got afraid of losing the good (exciting) feeling on this successfully session.
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Welcome Back!!!
The Good News is, that as a group, these good folk have demonstrated a very good success rate upon their return to active practice!
That doesn't necessarily mean that it will happen in just one or two sessions, although it certainly may...
But it DOES tend to happen! And - linking with another VERY common pattern... When you least expect it!
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Thanks! It's encouraging to hear that!
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If I were to rate this sensation with a score, I would give it a 20-30% of an ordinary orgasm, although it's kind of hard to compare these to sensations.
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There's another little note slip passed to you from your subconscious! What do you think it might mean?
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This slip was a bit harder to find, but I suppose you mean that I should have written
two instead of
to? The first minutes I looked at this, I didn't see anything special about it at all. Were almost ready to ask what you are talking about, until I noticed a detail: I'm actually writing here (because of the slip) that I find it hard to compare these two orgasmic types to sensations. Interesting! I find it hard to analyze myself, but maybe it's a sign of a sort of a emotional blockage against these feelings?
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I find that using the caress is a bit of a distraction, so I'm just using the sound for now. I'm not noticing any echo effect on the days off at the moment.
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How is this approach working for you?
I'm wondering what you mean by distraction.
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I'm using a light touch of the nipple as a caress.
By distraction, I mean that the caress takes some of the focus away from the relaxation, so that I become a little less relaxed. I notice that if I use a single caress before every KS, the good sensations (in the lower abs) tend to become less intense over time compared to not using the caress. Also the nipple become less sensitive over time when having a high frequency of these caresses. That is the main reason I have labeled these caresses as a "distraction".
On the other hand, it seems to work much better to use a single caress more infrequently, maybe only before every 3-4 KS-sound or so. That way, the nipple does seem to keep its sensitivity through the session as well.
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What are these distractions like? What's going on in you that is distracting?
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The reason I did call the caresses a distraction in the first place, is because the good sensations didn't increase as a result from using these caresses. And I'm assuming that everything that is dampening the good sensations is a sort of a distraction, and thus the caress is a distraction. But it may be that it's wrong to look at it in that way?
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If you were to give more trust to your subconscious body wisdom to believe that these realms within you know what they're doing and where they are trying to lead you, what is a positive term or frame you might use to recast these experiences that you have been labeling as distractions?
Please take a moment to do this, if you will.
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The first term I think of, is: "new feelings". But I'm not sure if that fits entirely.
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Refer out loud to these experiences as distractions and carefully notice how you feel emotionally.
... and please note them here in reply...
Next, assign one or more labels to these experiences that gives your Inner Guides every benefit of the doubt... that perhaps these sensations and emotions actually know exactly what they're doing as they guide you to the next level of learning?
...and please note how you feel here in reply...
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I don't think it is a emotional feeling that is the distraction in itself. It's more that I labeled the caress as a distraction, since the caress tend to give a decrease in the good sensations. So I'm not sure if your suggestion over applies to my situation?
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I often find myself over-analyzing and over-thinking everything when it's not working.
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Again I invite you to notice your emotions when you say that last sentence out loud...
...Then restate it out loud, using a positive term for each of the three characterizations that were negative: over-analyzing, over-thinking... not working...
...And again tune in to any changes in emotional state as a result.
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I tried this exercise, and it did give some negative feelings. A sort of "not reaching up", or "not good enough"-feelings. The positive variant of the sentence I could come up with, is:
"I often find myself in peace with my analyzing and thinking when it's working". Also have to say that I like the last sentence much better than my original one
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Maybe I should use one extra breath in between the sounds.., and so on...
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...And what action do you take when you hear those inner promptings?
What actions do those promptings suggest when you give yourself permission to explore them, at least some of the time?
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When I hear those promptings (mind noise), I try to just realize that I experienced them, and let them fly away on their own without giving them any attention. I believe that all these thoughts/promptings is just a distraction, a makes you less relaxed.
The last question was a bit hard to answer I think.
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So I try to focus on what is called "effortless effort", and not thinking to much in the process.
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How much effort are you devoting to effortless effort?
What if you devoted more effort to it?
What if you devoted a little less?
What if you explore each of those paths a little further and tune in to the results? And replace any negative labels or frames with a positive yet intuitively valid realistic counterpart?
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These are all good questions I think. I will try it out, and see what happens.
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I have also been practicing a form of meditation, called autogenic training (on separate sessions),
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Good! And I'm glad to hear you are doing that practice in separate sessions.
You may also find it worthwhile to blend the practices some of the time just to find out what you might discover.
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Thanks for this tip. I have tried to do the ksmo-session just after this meditation. And it seems to work quite well, as the meditation gives a very relaxed state.
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Stress has a lot of energy in it. I wonder what might happen to all of that energy if you let it flow instead of fighting it?
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That is a good question, although I'm not sure how to do that.
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I wonder what might happen when you sometimes DO allow yourself to be filled to overflowing with random thoughts - when you frame these seemingly random thoughts as possible clues to further relaxation and opening to the Echo Effects™!
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I'm wondering about that too. I will try it, and see what happens.
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That's VERY good news!!!
BTW, I noticed where said I are - It may be that English is not your first language, but it might also be a little gift from your subconscious that you have a lot of ALLIES inside of you who are being POSITIVELY ENERGIZED this music!
What do you think???
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English is not my first language, so I guess that may explain this one. Although I know it's named "I am", and not "I are". On the other hand, it may be that you're correct about these "allies".
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Actually, it does... your wrestling with yourself and your Inner Guides a bit, but that is a very typical part of this Adventure.
I look forward to hearing what happens next for you as you explore this reframing, relaxing a little more, varying your practice a little bit here or there, every few sessions, just to discover what you might learn!
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This makes perfect sense to me.
Thanks again for taking your time to answer my questions
I have to admit that many of your questions was a bit difficult to give good answer to
