Hey, Jack, thanks for the response! Thanks for the encouragement, too ... this really feels like a great practice and a great group of people to be a part of.

I've had my testosterone checked, and it's well within the normal range of what it should be. My doc was wondering the same thing.

What my wife enjoys about intercourse is being filled by my erection, and feeling some regular movement inside her ... but what she really loves (and what often brings her to her own climax) is feeling my penis pulsate and throb inside her, especially at the base when I'm fully inside her. However, it usually takes me lots of time moving in and out before I get to a point where I start throbbing like that. She's usually dry and tired of it by that time.

Your technique seems like a perfect match for us ... I can start feeling more orgasmic, she can get the Extra Throbbing she likes so much. I've mentioned this to her but she's hesitant to put much faith into it 'til she sees the results.

And thanks, too, for the reframe on coming too "slow" ... gave me a chance to think about how awesome it is to feel these feelings at all, and what a gift they are. I'd been feeling bad about spending too much time rubbing my wife raw during sex and feeling bad about that.