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Hi there 
Some background before I continue seeing that this is my first post. |
Great!
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24 year old male Australian w/ a partner.
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G'day, mate, and to your Sheila!
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Have recently committed to the practice and have a few questions about the Key Sound articulation:
1) When rolling the Key Sound I find that my back and shoulders tense as I complete the exhale.. is this normal or I am focusing too much on pushing the exhale to complete the sound?
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Yes you are pushing too hard.
There should be no forcing whatsoever... you relax into the process.
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2) I have had a few sessions now with focus on articulation. I listen to the 20 min demonstration and synchronize a breath after Jacks Key Sound. I've had four sessions with mixed results (nothing spectacular bar one wave of joy that I had in my second session).
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Next step is between the ears - i.e., the
cognitive traps that inhibit progress.
The
most common form of this most frequent trap is:
"I
did experience 'x'
but it wasn't very 'y' "
The wave of joy IS a
very big deal. It is NOT trivial!!!
What it means is that the process is
beginning to work!
BUT you slipped into that pitfall of "yes, but it wasn't very much. Therefore, nothing is happening, I'm not getting anywhere," etc. etc.
Every tiny Echo Effect is a big deal - especially in the beginning!
It means for a few moments there, you
were "on the signal line" as it were. That is, that you
did do something correctly - effectively.
Keep in mind our analogy (suggested by a UK woman named Andi - you can search the Forum for her comments) of a
timid fawn that is just starting to emerge from cover.
If you say Oh! there it is! And start chasing after it - off it goes! Back into hiding...
But instead, if you stay calm, and adopt an attitude of what in Zen practice is referred to as
Beginner's Mind, and just
gently continue your practice, more of those little tingles, or waves of joy, or warm (or cool) flushes of energy, or goosebumps or ??? will start to happen.
Those are the signs of the awakening of the response.
Don't try to
make it happen... Just stay with a very relaxed and relaxing practice, and do not force the Key Sound.
The Key Sound is more like a very relaxed, husky sigh.
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Is it wise to continue focusing on articulation before introducing the caress or shall I go ahead and bring in the caress before each Key Sound?
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Explore it both ways and find out which elicits more of those initially faint, quote subtle, and perhaps not even (in the beginning) particularly erotic sensations such as I described above.
Those are indeed the Echo Effects. That
spontaneous wave of joy you mentioned is a great example of an Echo Effect!
Those Echo Effects let you know when you are on track.
A very important concept is
relaxation plus
acceptance without negative judgments or evaluations (the latter which I refer to as
mind noise that is, brain static).
Likewise... relaxation
plus no forcing, no trying to
make it happen.
Instead relax and
allow the Echo Effects to manifest,
however subtle.
And instead of grading them as not much or nothing spectacular, etc. etc., applaud them!
Same to you mate! I look forward to seeing your
Blog.
Wishing you and your Sweetie all the very best that life has to offer,
Jack