thanks a lot guys!
This was WAY more advice then I expected to get for my post.

I have a lot to think about and a lot more to practice.

What a nice way to think of things to replace a seemingly destructive behavior to one that is very constructive, I had never thoght of it like that before

In the past my attitude was more like learn multiple orgasms and...........oh ya no ejaculating because its bad for you.

Since I dont drink or anything its kind of hard to just cut off ALL erotic pleasure especially since im single right now.

I also find that when I have a girlfriend I feel less of a need to ejaculate well.....less of an ejaculation compulsion.